Love

I’m so happy for my cousin. She found the love of her life in the form of a tall strapping policeman. I’ve never seen her so happy before. This may be due to the fact that when I usually see her during Chinese New Year or wedding dinners, there will always be some smart aleck auntie or uncle asking her the all-too-dreaded question~

‘ When are you getting married?’

These statements mean nothing to the person who asks them but it certainly hurts the person at the brunt of the questioning.

Usually everyone around just keeps quiet. But there can sometimes be some blur passers-by.

‘Ya ya where is your boyfriend? You’re not getting any younger you know.’

At this point you can slice the tension with a knife.

There can only be a few possible answers to these types of brutal questions.

1. Don’t have yet. Waiting for you to introduce lor.
2. I’m still young la. I don’t want to be tied down yet.
3. Where got time to pak toh? I’m so busy..
4. Too many suitors already. Dunno which one to choose.

When the obvious answers in their mind is ‘None of your business. Take your happily in love offspring away and go harass someone else.’

I don’t want to become like these aunties! I vow never to be like them when I grow up. But lately I seem to have started using this exact phrase on friends as a conversation starter.

‘When are you getting married?’

This has never failed me~ that is until recently when I asked a friend~

‘I just broke up with my boyfriend. I’m single now.’

Doing doing doing ~ How could I have been so heartless? I know how it feels like to have gone through heartbreak. And the last thing u want is someone reminding you of the pain and bleak loneliness you now face.

It hurtles someone back into depression, despair, dementia….you name it~ It’s like losing your pet but 10 times worse.

And I may have been guilty of inducing it. Sometimes I seriously need to think before I speak.